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Breastfeeding in public gave me anxiety and it was totally unexpected,16 Sep 2019 in Tips

https://www.mother.ly/life/breastfeeding-in-public-gave-me-anxiety-and-it-was-totally-unexpected

Before becoming a mother, I had a film reel running in my head of the type of mom I would be. I would nurse. I would make organic baby food. I would set strict and loving boundaries: no screens before two, no co-sleeping, binky gone after the first birthday. I laugh as I type this up.

Our son is 14 months old now and he eats store-bought squeeze packs and goldfish crackers, he sleeps in our bed almost every night, he occasionally watches a show when I am overwhelmed and his binky is his best friend.

The mom I thought I would be in my head is not exactly the mom I am when the realities of life set in.

When it came to breastfeeding, this was something I assumed I would just do. I knew it would initially be something I would have to figure out and learn in the hospital, but after that I thought it would be natural and comfortable. I was not overly concerned. I didn’t even take a breastfeeding class. I heard stories of the initial challenges and pains early breastfeeding brought on, but I wrongly assumed that proper latching and sore nipples would be my biggest obstacles to overcome.

I was absolutely unprepared for the anxiety that breastfeeding brought on.

To say I struggled with nursing my son is an understatement. It was a battle I faced every couple of hours. There were tears and frustrations on both of our ends. I blamed it on a lot of external things: tongue tie, nipple shape, extra milk supply. It was so easy for me to externally justify why this breastfeeding thing was so challenging for me.

While some of these reasons may have been true, there was a bigger issue: my own head. Especially when it came to nursing in public, it almost always ended in disaster. My heart rate would increase, my mind began to tell me all types of lies and he would become frantic. My great challenges when it came to nursing went far beyond latching issues. Even an experienced lactation consultant cannot fully diagnose an issue when it has to do with your internal fears and deep insecurities.

This is something that not enough people talk about. I felt extremely alone and isolated in my anxiety with nursing in public.

I frantically Googled all day long in hopes of finding more women that also struggled with feeling uncomfortable feeding their babies in public. But most of my research made me feel like there was something wrong with me. So much of what I read revolved around embracing nursing in public, not even worrying about using a cover, and the pride other moms had in the ability to nurse wherever.

I read these articles and my heart longed to be like them, but I was stuck still feeling incredibly shy when it came to nursing in front of anyone except my husband. What was wrong with me? This is a totally natural thing. All those other moms seem to nurse out in public with such grace and confidence. Why can’t I be like them? Why do I have to get so awkward, insecure and unsure? These were my constant thoughts in the early days of nursing.

Breastfeeding, for me, was much more than just learning the basics of how to correctly feed my sweet baby. It was a lesson in confidence. Even more, it was a lesson in embracing the fact that I do things differently. I am a slow learner. It takes me a while to warm up. I need time. I am shy, modest and slightly insecure. I so wish I could go back and fill those early months with more grace and patience. I wish I could tell myself it would be okay and that I would get there.

I did get there, eventually. I went from needing to find a hiding place each time my baby became hungry to nursing with confidence wherever we were: the park, the beach, an airplane. Part of this growth came from my son’s own development, but a large part of overcoming the deep anxiety I once had was learning to be confident as a mom.

It took me a while to fully feel like I was made to be a mom. I had so much self-doubt and insecurity, which ultimately got in the way of something as natural as feeding my baby. I felt like everyone’s eyes were on me when I attempted to nurse in public. I made up so many lies about what they thought about me. It’s sad to admit, but when I breastfed in public, I was more concerned with how others perceived me than just focusing on my baby.

As I gained confidence in motherhood, my care in how others perceived me slowly lessened. My focus was finally on where it needed to be: my baby.

Gaining the confidence to nurse in public definitely did not happen overnight. It was a long and slow process. There was not one thing that suddenly granted me with courage. It was many little wins that overtime allowed me to be the mother I pictured I would be. The one that nursed her baby with grace and confidence wherever she may be.

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25 Mistakes Tourists Make While Visiting Hawaii,16 Sep 2019 in Tips

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/mistakes-tourists-hawaii_l_5d783b45e4b0432f81741a3a

Hawaii locals shared the faux pas they often see visitors committing.



Why children of the outback might dream of the sea,16 Sep 2019 in Tips

https://babyology.com.au/podcasts/feedplaylove/why-children-of-the-outback-might-dream-of-the-sea/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=why-children-of-the-outback-might-dream-of-the-sea

Ella and the Ocean is a picture book about a young girl who dreams of a sea that she has never seen. In her quest to understand what the ocean really looks like, Ella inspires her family to take a long trip to the coast.  Author Lian Tanner talks about how the story came together, including aspects of her own family’s life […]

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These powerful viral photos are changing the way we talk about pregnancy + infant loss,16 Sep 2019 in Tips

https://www.mother.ly/news/powerful-photos-changing-the-way-we-talk-pregnancy-infant-loss

Words are so powerful and so are images. That’s why photographer Melanie Paterak combined the two in her now-viral portrait series, “Positive Words.”

In a series of stunning photographs, Paterak shows mothers who have suffered a loss holding a chalkboard with the worst and best things people said to them in the wake of pregnancy and infant loss.

“We titled this project ‘Positive Words’ in hopes of not only putting out there what stuck with us in a negative way, but what stuck with us in giving us hope. The images in color represent things said that gave us hope in the darkest days,” she explains, while the black and white images represent comments that pushed grieving moms further into the darkness.

“She’s in a better place” 

“I want people to see that we completely understand that during a time of loss, people are generally not sure what to say. Sometimes you can have the best of intentions, but when you’re hurting, things may be interpreted differently than how you meant them,” Paterak tells Mother.ly.

In one image a woman holds a chalkboard with the words, “She’s in a better place,” followed by her own thought when she heard that comment: “Was I not good enough?”

The series reminds us that sometimes well-meaning comments can do more harm than good.

So how can we be more mindful when trying to comfort someone who has suffered a loss? Paterak’s participants suggest focusing on the present and the positive.

“I want people to see that we completely understand that during a time of loss, people are generally not sure what to say. Sometimes you can have the best of intentions, but when you’re hurting, things may be interpreted differently than how you meant them,” Paterak explains.

“She is beautiful”

The same participant who was told her baby was in a better place was also told that her stillborn baby was beautiful and that was the comment she held onto.

It was about the present moment, not about trying again, and it focused on her baby in a positive way. By paying her baby a compliment the person who uttered the words on this chalkboard helped this mother hold onto her positive memory of her baby girl, who she carried for 36 weeks and 3 days and who was perfect.

Paterak is proud of the project and the women who participated in it. This photoshoot almost didn’t even happen, she tells Motherly. “We started planning this project a month or so before shooting it, and then most of the women canceled less than 48 hours before we were set to shoot. I posted to my Portraits By Melanie [Facebook} page with 24 hours to go that we needed women to come, and they did! I met many of them for the first time that day. It was a powerful thing. We cried together, we hugged, and we talked about our experiences of loss.”

Her advice to anyone who wants to offer kind words to someone going through pregnancy or infant loss: “Sometimes a simple ‘I’m here for you’ is just best.”

More portraits from “Positive Words” by Melanie Paterak

“At least you’re still young…you can try again,” someone told this mother. Being told that they could “try again” was common for the participants in the project, and most found that comment was not comforting, but dismissive of their very real feelings of loss.

More portraits from “Positive Words” by Melanie Paterak

“At least” was another common phrase participants heard after their losses. “At least you didn’t get to know her,” “At least you weren’t that pregnant.”

While those who offered these comments to grieving moms meant to help them, the words had the opposite impact by comparing their grief to others’. Grief is individual, it’s not a contest.

More portraits from “Positive Words” by Melanie Paterak

The mothers in Paterak’s project agreed that the kindest words were often the ones that reminded them they had support in their corner.

More portraits from “Positive Words” by Melanie Paterak

Sometimes a simple “I’m here for you” is the most powerful comment a person can make to a grieving parent.


To see the full project visit Portraits by Melanie on Facebook.

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Mum shares brilliantly basic remedy for toddler teething pain,16 Sep 2019 in Tips

https://babyology.com.au/toddler/behaviour-and-discipline/mum-shares-brilliantly-basic-remedy-for-toddler-teething-pain/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=mum-shares-brilliantly-basic-remedy-for-toddler-teething-pain

If you’ve ever had to care for a teething toddler, you’ll know that it can be a relentless and grizzle-filled endeavour. Not to mention how the poor little one is behaving. Keep it simple One mum and her toddler had endured a full day of this sort of discomfort and distress. Taking to popular parenting […]

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55% Off Calico Critters Baby Discovery Forest,16 Sep 2019 in Tips

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Mum’s brave letter to her postpartum body has struck a chord with everyone,16 Sep 2019 in Tips

https://babyology.com.au/pregnancy/birth/mums-brave-letter-to-her-postpartum-body-has-struck-a-chord-with-everyone/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=mums-brave-letter-to-her-postpartum-body-has-struck-a-chord-with-everyone

Growing a baby and giving birth can be tough on a woman’s body, not to mention emotionally draining and incredibly exhausting. Meanwhile, recovery can be slow and your body never quite the same again. What a woman’s body achieves during pregnancy and childbirth is truly amazing. And instead of mourning the physical changes, we should be […]

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5 ways to make yourself feel better after a miscarriage,16 Sep 2019 in Tips

https://babyology.com.au/pregnancy/stages-of-pregnancy/miscarriage/5-ways-to-make-yourself-feel-better-after-a-miscarriage/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=5-ways-to-make-yourself-feel-better-after-a-miscarriage

There is nothing good about miscarrying. It’s a time of great sadness not to mention anger, disappointment, confusion and despondency. And that’s just the beginning. To top it off, everywhere you look, there are gorgeous little babies or glowing mums-to-be with big healthy round bellies. I should know, I miscarried three times. And each one […]

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Stop everything! The release date for the new Bluey toys has been revealed,16 Sep 2019 in Tips

https://babyology.com.au/parenting/toys/stop-everything-the-release-date-for-the-new-bluey-toys-has-been-revealed/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=stop-everything-the-release-date-for-the-new-bluey-toys-has-been-revealed

Well. It’s sort of been revealed. Fact is, the folks at Bluey told us that this much-anticipated range of toys will hit stores very, very soon. Bluey toys are go! Early November is the rough drop date, so while you can’t circle an exact DAY on your calendar, you may as well circle the entire […]

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These celebrity parents prove co-parenting can be such a rewarding experience 🙌,16 Sep 2019 in Tips

https://www.mother.ly/news/celebrity-co-parents-blended-families

There are a lot of preconceived notions about what a family “should” look like, but according to the Pew research center, it is no longer the norm for a baby to be born to and raised solely by parents who are married to each other. “There is no longer one dominant family form in the U.S. Parents today are raising their children against a backdrop of increasingly diverse and, for many, constantly evolving family forms,” Pew noted in its report, Parenting in America.

That’s why we love to see celebrities celebrating the diverse forms their families take. Children today need to see that blended families are every bit as awesome (and normal) as a families where mom and dad are married.

Here are some of our favorite famous blended families:

Jennifer Lopez + Alex Rodriguez

Jennifer Lopez is a woman of many, many talents: She can act, sing, dance, design…and, if a recent Instagram post from fiancé Alex Rodriguez is any indication, she can co-parent with the best of them as well.

In an interview on the TODAY show, JLo told Hoda Kotb a story that brings tears to our eyes.

“I got the most beautiful card from Alex’s daughter, Tashi [that’s Natasha, age 14]. And she told me it’s an honor to be your stepdaughter. Again, I start crying,” Lopez, 50, said. “I just feel so blessed to have all of the dynamics that are going on in my life right now. You know, and first starting with, you know, creating a family that I’ve always wanted.”

This is just the latest in a series of stories that prove J Lo, A Rod and J Lo’s ex, Marc Anthony are total co-parenting goals.

A few months ago the trio made us smile when they shared a moment from J Lo and Marc’s son Max’s music recital. The three adults sat together in the audience, and Alex shared the sweetest video clip from the event. The video shows A Rod sitting between the exes: Both Jennifer and Marc playfully lip-sync the words to “I Will Always Love You” as their son and his group perform the classic.

Alex sits in between them laughing—because, by his own admission, he can’t quite keep up with the former couple on a musical level. “Those who can, do,” Alex writes alongside the video. “Those who can’t, sit between two people that can and stay quiet! #imnotasinger.”

But J Lo and Marc’s musical chops are definitely not the only impressive thing we’re seeing here. Co-parenting is nothing new, and this is certainly not the first set of celebrity parents to keep working together as parents even after a breakup. Still, this display is both heart-warming and seriously commendable. Marc’s willingness to welcome his ex-wife’s future husband into the fold, Jennifer’s ability to balance her co-parenting relationship along with her romantic relationship, Alex’s comfort level with his bride-to-be’s family—it’s all really wonderful to witness.

Soon after, Jennifer returned the favor by joining her future husband’s family to celebrate his daughter’s middle school graduation. Her kids were on hand as well to pose for a family photo.

And recently, when A Rod’s eldest daughter made the move up to high school, the whole family, including A Rod’s ex-wife (Natasha’s mom) Cynthia Scurtis and her new partner, Angel Nicolas posed for one happy group photo.

Coming together for their children’s events is nothing new for this family. A year ago, Alex shared another Instagram shot of group watching his daughters, Natasha and Ella, and Jennifer and Marc’s daughter, Emme, perform at a dance recital. He added the hashtag “#familia” to the photo. We’ve said it once and we’ll say it again: Their ability to function so well as a blended family is incredible…and very healthy for all involved parties.

We’re loving this glimpse into this modern family’s ability to work their situation with so much grace and maturity!

Kourtney Kardashian + Scott Disick

The eldest Kardashian sister and her ex, Scott Disick, make headlines time and time again for their close post-breakup relationship. Despite the fact that they’ve severed romantic ties (and that Scott is seriously dating Sophia Richie), Kourtney and Scott have remained important parts of each others’ lives. And why shouldn’t they? They may not be a couple anymore, but they are family.

As co-parents to Mason, Penelope and Reign, Kourtney and Scott even vacation together (who could forget that much-discussed Bali trip?). And while everything the Kardashians do seems to make its way into the public eye, Kourtney’s decision to co-parent in plain sight is a conscious one. “I feel like I can show a message, too, of like parents [who] can get along and work together and travel together,” Kourtney once told TODAY. “And I think it’s a good message to show other people.”

One of the coolest things about this former couples’ co-parenting relationship? The way they welcome Scott’s current partner, Sophia, into the fold. Reports indicate that she and Kourtney get along well, and that Sophia has a great relationship with Scott and Kourtney’s children.

Gabrielle Union + Dwayne Wade

Gabrielle Union recently became a mama after a long battle with infertility and pregnancy loss—but she’s been a stepmom for years, and she’s embraced that role in a really beautiful way.

“Being a stepparent is incredibly difficult. You never quite know your space. No one ever thanks the stepmom! No matter what you do, no one ever is like, ‘And I just want to say a shoutout to—’ [or] ‘And I’m gonna buy my stepmama a mansion when I make it big,” Gabrielle told Rachel Ray during an appearance on her talk show. “[But] it’s also awesome knowing that—even without any outside validation—that you’re a consistent, compassionate, loving adult who puts the kids’ joy and their peace of mind and their innocence first.”

Difficult as it may be, Gabrielle and Dwayne have managed to make blending their family look totally seamless. They’re routinely spotted with Dwayne’s sons, Zaire, Zion and Xavier — and now that they’ve added their daughter, Kaavia, to the family, the brood has seemingly become ever more close-knit.

Kelly Clarkson + Brandon Blackstock

When Kelly Clarkson married Brandon Blackstock, she didn’t just gain a husband—she also became a stepmother to his children, Savannah and Seth. “We all live together and everything. It’s so different, but it’s perfect. They’re awesome, and I actually really dig the mom thing,” Kelly said of her role as a stepmom during an appearance on On Air With Ryan Seacrest.

Since then, Kelly and Brandon have welcomed two more children, River and Remington, into their modern family. Through it all, Kelly has celebrated the amazing father her husband is. Need proof? Just listen to her hit song, “Piece by Piece” and try not to cry.

Adele + Simon Konecki

When Adele split with her longtime partner, Simon Konecki, the world waited expectantly for more details (and, of course, some divorce-fueled ballads from the songstress). While Adele has remained rather tight-lipped about the details of their split (which, to be clear, is totally her prerogative!), we do know one thing: The former couple has mastered the art of co-parenting.

Here’s what we know, according to a statement from Adele’s team: “Adele and her partner have separated. They are committed to raising their son together lovingly. As always they ask for privacy. There will be no further comment.”

Simon has a child from a previous relationship, so we imagine working with a nontraditional family dynamic is nothing new to this couple.

Gwyneth Paltrow + Chris Martin

Leave it to the woman who invented a term for amicable breakups (conscious uncoupling, anyone?) to reinvent the rules for balancing a blended family.

Gwyneth and her ex-husband, Chris Martin, have nailed the art of staying close after a split, which is both impressive and super healthy for their children, Apple and Moses. Their setup works for this famous blended family. And Gwyneth’s message for those who don’t get it? “I don’t care about the haters. Haters are irrelevant to me,” she told The Sunday Times.

Martin and Paltrow are still very much a parenting team even though Paltrow has remarried. And she’s doing that differently, too.

Gwyneth’s secret to a successful marriage? Seperate homes. She famously admitted that she and husband, Brad Falchuk, don’t live together full-time. And you know what? More power to them.

Drew Barrymore + Will Kopelman

As far as we’re concerned, this viral photo of Drew Barrymore and her ex, Will Kopelman, defines “cute co-parenting moments.” The exes came together to celebrate their daughter’s graduation ceremony — it’s certainly not the first sweet display of co-parenting skills from this duo, but it’s easily one of our favorites.

It’s interesting, I saw this article the other day written about me—and I never see articles written about me—and it was like, ‘My Modern Family.’ And I was like, ‘I like that; that has a nice ring to it,” Drew said of their setup during an appearance on The Ellen DeGeneres Show. “I so wanted to raise kids in this ultra-traditional way and do everything so the polar opposite of my experience.”

Jennifer Garner + Ben Affleck 

Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck split up years ago, but they will always be family because they share three kids, 13-year-old Violet, 10-year-old Seraphina and 8-year-old Samuel.

In the years since their divorce Garner, Affleck and their kids have been spotted doing tons of regular stuff as a family, like going to church or spending special occasions together.

In a recent interview with Today, Affleck credited his ex with facilitating an awesome coparenting relationship, even when times were tough.

“I hope I’m a pretty good dad. I certainly try very hard. I’m lucky they got a great mom and she helps out a great deal with making sure we coparent in as good a way as possible,” he said.

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